Secondary goals Secondary goals problem you do not have awareness of them, contrary to your goals If you plan to you know, But fortunately there is a way to extract the secondary goals from within us, there is a fine line separating the feeling and the feeling and practice you can conduct a dialogue with your brain unconscious, if you succeed in it you will suddenly discover that you knew things you would not think you know. Your values and beliefs impose on your subconscious mind what you want to achieve, and now let's see this idea from another angle. It is your dominant thoughts that determine the goal. The established values, although they do not have a specific goal, will lead you to certain types of goals. The value of "honesty" tends to reflect goals that are honest, and so beliefs drive us. Values and beliefs sometimes stand in the way of achieving our goals. For example, a belief such as "I can not lead others" will stand in front of your ability to achieve any goal of leading a number of people, so values and beliefs can generate a cycle of success or failure, and will make a great profit if you can identify your values and beliefs Which may hinder you to achieve your goals. How can you clearly define your goals? One of the best tools to determine this is Descartes' questions, which is one of the techniques that can help you remove the confusion and clarify the ambiguities when determining your goals through a question matrix. Descartes "Descartes" and to apply Start now by choosing a goal from your goals and apply matrix questions. 1_ What happens if I achieve my goal entirely? This is what you tend to achieve when you achieve your goal. I think that each of us will have a picture of a situation in the future when we achieve a goal. 2_ What will not happen if I achieve my goal? This question will allow the "secondary gain" to float above the surface, and explain the benefits that you may be afraid of losing if you achieve your new goal, and you may have to lose some of the benefits, you have to decide and choose to give up these benefits Take enough time and examine your feelings and motives without haste. 3_ What happens if I do not achieve my goal? This will confirm the cost or pain resulting from your continuation in the same way, which will give you the incentive you need to make this change. What will not happen if I do not achieve my goal? This question has an effect on the left half of your mind. It searches beyond your conscious mind, makes your mind work through different nerve channels, and prompts you to think things over in a new way. You have to answer this question based on your reasoning rather than logic. Application of the "Descartes" matrix Let us now try to apply a simple example "In fact I want to get this upgrade" using the Descartes model consist of questions on the following face: 1. What happens if I get the upgrade? 2_ What would not happen if I got the upgrade? 3_ What happens if you do not get the upgrade? 4_ What would not happen if you did not get the upgrade? Descartes' questions will allow you to see vague, interconnected and uncluttered goals, and will give you the opportunity to see the different dimensions of long-term goals that need a long time to complete. Values and objectives We have agreed in the past that values and beliefs have a significant impact on Select and set goals. For example, honesty is very important for "So I believe in honesty, managers care only about themselves" belief, "each of us builds his own system of values and beliefs throughout his life. These values and beliefs influence all the ideas we have from the world, When we choose goals and guide our lives and stimulate our actions, whether positive or negative. Now select three goals from your list of goals and apply the questions of "Descartes" and during that notice you feel the direction of each goal. 1_ Is it still as it is? Have you thought of changing this goal? After testing, you will notice a better vision and better perception of your goals. Here is the end of the lesson today and we continue our talk about goals and values soon, God willing, we talk about the following: 1_ The relationship between your values and goals? 2_ How do you choose your goals from many of them? 3_ What are your valuable sources? 4_ Ability to change your goals?
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